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Julie Mencher presentingToday’s youth approach gender and sexuality with a radically different outlook than what their parents and teachers were raised with. Adults may still think of gender as a determination (made at birth and based on biology) between male and female; this generation instead views gender as a spectrum of choice from male to female, or from gender-conforming (cisgender) to gender-nonconforming (transgender). Educators are challenged to bridge the gap between their own experiences and mindsets, and those of their students. The shift in mindset is so pervasive that Facebook recently changed the gender options on user profiles from two to over fifty. Ms. Mencher works with schools, colleges, and camps to help translate these cultural shifts into sound strategy and policy. She prepares educators to support students and their families and works with administrators to develop interventions that align with each school’s unique mission and values. Through a combination of workshops, policy consultations, and strategic planning, Ms. Mencher guides schools through the process of institutional change.

Selected Workshops

  • “GLBTQQFFPA”???? Sexual Identity for Today’s Teens
  • Gay, Lesbian & Bisexual Youth and the Boarding School Experience
  • Cultivating Resilience in Gender Non-conforming Youth
  • Gender Diversity 101: A Workshop for Educators
  • Gender Identity Challenges in Adolescence
  • “You’re So Gay:” How Homophobic or Gender-Violent Bullying Hurts All Kids
  • Suicide Prevention in High-Risk LGBTQ Teens
  • Understanding The Evolving Gender Landscape: A Workshop for Parents

Policy Consultations

  • Promoting Acceptance of Alternative Genders and Sexualities in School Climate
  • Incorporating Gender Diversity in Single-sex Schools
  • Gender-Neutral Housing
  • Bridging the Gap on Gender and Sexuality Issues: Alums to Students
  • Balancing the Needs of Multiple Constituencies While Supporting LGBT Students
  • Gender Diversity and Admissions
  • Gender Issues in Sex-Segregated Athletics
  • Bathrooms, Locker Rooms, and Other So-called Private Places: Creating Hospitable and Legal Options for Gender-Variant Kids
  • Enforcing Bans on Sexual Contact with LGBT Students in Boarding Schools

Related Publications

Do Schools Need to Learn a Lesson from . . . Facebook??

Single-Sex Institutions in a Multi-gender World: What’s a Girl (To Do)?

What Your Princess Daughter Can Learn from Miley Cyrus and Caitlyn Jenner 


Julie has been a trusted member of the Nightingale team on this important diversity issue for the past year.  Grounded in the mission of girls’ schools, her thoughtful, research-based and practical approach considers all stakeholders around a complicated topic.  I am eager to continue learning from her.

Paul Burke, Head
The Nightingale-Bamford School
New York, NY
NCGS Vice President


When our faculty asked for insight and guidance on gender diversity, Julie delivered — in timely, informative, and thoughtfully provocative ways.  First creating a comfortable atmosphere for us to ask questions and challenge our own assumptions and one another, Julie then covered comprehensive content about the needs of transgender students. She challenged us to reimagine how to support gender-nonconforming students in all aspects of student life, including our residential program, athletics, and curriculum.  Julie offered concrete ideas about inclusive language and proper use of pronouns.  She is a thoughtful speaker, with a rich background in adolescent development, sexual orientation, and gender identity.  Sharing scholarship, data, and compelling accounts of her work with families and schools, Julie is an excellent, welcoming presenter and an important voice for educators who are committed to supporting all our students.

Jenny Chandler
Dean of Faculty
Concord Academy


In our full-day training, we learned so much, not only about the LGBT landscape for today’s youth but also about how to translate that knowledge in anticipation of working with our multiple stakeholders.  Julie’s knack for inviting candor and openness in discussion of difficult topics enabled us to wrestle with complexity and build cohesiveness as a team.  Following the session, the admission team felt more knowledgeable as well as more confident and, indeed, were positioned to be leaders on campus as relates to this topic.  I would highly recommend her work to any school seeking training or policy consultation in this area.

Pamela Safford
Dean of Admission and Financial Aid
Deerfield Academy


Julie has been a wonderful support for the National Coalition of Girls’ Schools (NCGS) as we have worked to create a position statement and a central place for resources on transgender issues within girls’ schools. In both our 2015 National Conference and our 2016 Global Forum, Julie developed and led much of our programming on gender diversity.   She is thoughtful, open, and has brought many years of experience and insight to us.

Megan Murphy
NCGS Executive Director


Julie Mencher is a dynamic, thoughtful, and engaging consultant/trainer who presents complicated subject matter in a straightforward manner.  Her keen insight is grounded in decades of research and experience. While any school wrestling with the complexities of sexuality and gender would benefit from her considerable expertise, her specific knowledge of single-sex institutions helped our girls’ school staff and faculty.

Ellen Carter
Director of Counseling
Stoneleigh-Burnham School


Julie is knowledgeable, insightful and helpful in navigating the changing landscape of gender in our schools. As a new head at a girls boarding school, I felt I found an important resource in educating the faculty, students, trustees and alumnae. She is compassionate, patient, and there really are “no stupid questions” in her sessions. The community was energized by her workshop, and I look forward to keeping in touch with Julie as the school works together to best support all our students.

Julie Faulstich
Head of School
Westover School


Trainings And Policy Consultations

  • Amherst College
  • Amherst Common School
  • Bement School
  • Bentley College
  • Bowdoin College
  • Brearley School
  • Chatham Hall
  • Concord Academy
  • Deerfield Academy
  • Garrison Forest School
  • Hampshire College
  • Hathaway Brown School
  • Interschool (NYC)
  • Mount Holyoke College
  • National Coalition of Girls’ Schools (NCGS)
  • Nightingale-Bamford School
  • Small Boarding Schools Association (SBSA)
  • Smith College
  • Smith College Campus School
  • Smith College School for Social Work
  • St. Margaret’s School
  • Stoneleigh Burnham School
  • The Association of Boarding Schools (TABS)
  • University of Massachusetts
  • Wellesley College
  • Westridge School
  • Wheaton College